Set Boundaries
We all need to set boundaries in life. Boundaries are good to keep us balanced. Are you a people-pleaser? It is good to want to help people and love them, but you have to also be careful you are not being taken advantage of. There are people out there that will take advantage of you, if you let them. Look for the approval of God, not of man. (John 12:43)
As Christians we may say “yes” to everybody, because we feel that we should. However, sometimes saying “yes” can actually hurt that person and you. Saying “yes” to everybody that needs something from you can exhaust you. For example, if you take on someone’s else project at work, because they fell behind, not only does it teach that person that they can get away with irresponsibility, but that takes precious time away from you and your family… (Prov.19:19, 23:13) And it may cause you to resent that person as well. Plus, saying “yes” when you really mean “no” is bending the truth. (Luke 6:26) Do not always try to be a peacemaker.
Sometimes you should help out the person, but be careful not to do it all the time. Set good healthy boundaries with your family, friends, parents, spouses, co-workers, and yourself. Do not feel guilty about it either. Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. Set boundaries so you can love yourself and others better.
“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’There is no commandment greater than these.”‘ (Mark 12:31)
